By every conceivable metric, men and women can score equally well on standardized tests. With education, sex and gender don’t matter. Everything else is a set of obverse traits that cancel each other out. Men are physically stronger, we get what we want through strength more often than not. Women rely on subtle manipulation, achieving their success through cunning, a stalemate.
The answer isn’t found in the interactions that men and women have with each other, its found through analyzing the interactions that men have with men, and women have with women. In the spaces in between the spaces of intra-gender conflict or cooperation. This is where I put you to the question.
When was the last time you saw or read about a group of men all doing something stupid together?
You didn’t even need Google. Your mind flooded with images of us doing stupid things. I’ll use myself as an example. I did the Running of the Bulls in Spain and saw other men die doing the same thing before I even tried it myself. I could go on, but I’m sure we’re on the same page.
When was the last time you saw or read about a group of women all doing something stupid together?
I don’t believe that there aren’t a few cases, but those cases pale in comparison to the sheer volume of stupid things men do.
The big reveal is this, we men are not stupid.
Men carry a trait that keeps us together, loyalty. Loyalty does not mean that we men are right, wrong, just, unjust, good, or bad. Loyalty just means that we stick together.
The Captain goes down with the ship.
All for one and one for all.
A stand up guy.
Bro’s before hoe’s.
Never leave a man behind.
I don’t even have to source those sayings, odds are that you know at least four by heart and can infer the meaning of the one you don’t. They range from noble to crass, but they all express an Esprit de corps, a bond that men can develop among themselves that form the core of a group. Those bonds allow us to focus on external enemies and goals.
Women lack this cohesion.
Please feel free to refute my claim with
5 3 (I’ll lower the standard) clever phrases that women have come up with to illustrate their loyalty to each other.
We men have things that we bond through that allow us to bolster our ties and reinforce our loyalty to each other. They are almost all a proxy for war. We use Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, tests of physical prowess and martial arts. We use chess, academic accolades, and strategic games. We even compare our conquests of women. All in an effort not only to prove what we are the best at but to demonstrate why we should lead and teach other men what we know. Men take a particular pride in seeing his apprentice or protege’ not only learn what he’s taught, but surpass his predecessor in his accomplishment. We take pride in being part of a chain that began before we were born, and that will continue long after our bones are dust.
I’ll re-state the point to bring us back to the issue I just spent 500 words bolstering the case for.
The Reason Men Are In Charge.
The reason men are in charge is that we can focus our efforts outward, against any group that we identify as “other”. Other men, women, people of differing political ideology, followers of a different faith all count as “other”. Win, lose, or draw, most men have a core group of other men to support them. Each woman is an independently owned and operated unit, like The Terminator. Women, just like men, have a mission, but no support to carry it out. They also have the added weight of understanding that every other operative, man or woman has the default setting of wanting to see her lose.
Men, as a general rule, want to see anyone lose to them if they are not part of his Team. Even then, we usually only want direct conflict with someone who stands in the way of something we want, has offended us or tried to hurt someone who is on our Team.
What I know of women has been through observation only.
What I’ve seen is that women, as a general rule, dislike each other. They have some group affiliations with women they dislike and mistrust slightly less than others, but rarely have a group of women or a woman that they are willing to swear allegiance to and follow into harm’s way. I define “harm” as anything that may cause discomfort or inconvenience. Harm can be real, perceived, or social, not necessarily physical harm. I am not sure if they lack cohesion because they don’t have any activities they use to bond, or they don’t have activities that help them bond because they lack cohesion.
I don’t have a clean, neat, socially correct word or twist of prose to end this with.
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