100% of men will try to have sex with 100% of the women they are sexually attracted to, to the best of their ability. That’s where The Manosphere comes in. It’s a scary, hilarious place.
Note: The Manosphere (the entire movement, not to be confused with the webpage) in general is mainly made up of angry, angry White, middle-aged men who are disproportionally unhappy with their lives to begin with. Some through their own actions, some through not being taught Correct Action by a strong father, or suitable mentor, because there is no substitute for a father. Correct Action being the set of behaviours that get you what you want in life.
These are often men who made poor choices with women, lost businesses/went bankrupt, were taken advantage of by their ex-wives and an unfair court system, don’t exercise and/or are victims of their own poor eating habits. I touched on eating when I talked about Being Yourself. Still, some who give advice offer field-tested wisdom that the men who frequent the site(s) can use.
I stumbled onto the (now defunct) VivaLaManosphere (this site does not represent the entire movement), run by KidStrangeLove when a friend sent me to BoldAndDetermined.com, run by Victor Pride and DangerAndPlay.com, run by Mike Cernovich. I’m big on developing myself, setting goals, pillaging my opposition, and building my thrones on the skulls of my enemies. So my buddy thought I’d get a kick out of those two, I do. I watched, and commented on a few threads they run as well. What I found out is that they represent the fringe element of The Manosphere.
A man named Jake routinely reposts my writings at http://www.Manosphere.com and I am glad to be thought well of by his readers. More than a few have emailed me and talked with me in-depth about what I write. Keep in mind, I don’t write for his audience or The Manosphere, but I recognize the overlap.
I’ve reconciled that I am a part of The Manosphere, the fringe part. When I say “fringe” it’s not that the ideas I promote are detrimental. Most of The Manosphere does not promote the hard, life altering actions it takes to make it in life, and with women. They promote using falsehoods and less than ethical shortcuts that don’t work out for the long term. Specifically exercising the body, mind, and spirit are long term, never ending projects that yield consistent, replicable, verifiable results.
- I define results as being a Man that other Men like to do business with and make money with.
- I define results as being a Man that Women desire.
On the other hand, a big chunk of the men reading The Manosphere and all of its associated parts are only looking for enough info to find quick and easy sex, and there is nothing wrong with that either. Many of the tactics they use are undeniably effective.
As I said, “100% of men will try to have sex with 100% of the women they are sexually attracted to, to the best of their ability.” Where things become unequal is when we realize that not all men have the same ability because they lack the tools. The Manosphere makes a good try at identifying and addressing those tools. I agree that the main, clearly effective tools men use to attract and keep women are:
- Physical Fitness
- Fame (note: Fame is the trump card. It supersedes, and is more powerful that all other aspects combined.)
That’s where things fall apart. The Manosphere may have been a coherent, streamlined resource at one time, but it has fallen into the 50/50 paradox.
50% of the time the people who contribute to it are astonishingly clear. They articulate how men can improve themselves every day and thus improve their life, which always leads to more sex.
To be clear, sex is the end goal for all men, gay or straight.
The other 50% of what’s there is a sad, overtly racist, misogynistic, self-loathing, “woe is me”, “hard done by” place on the internet where all of men’s (lowercase intentional) problems are summed up by blaming it on women being irrational (read: angry that Women won’t behave the way weak men want them to) and Black Men (read: anything that can’t be blamed on women is the fault of Black Men, the bane of their existence.) Because at some point being Black in America became a huge advantage, and I never got the memo.
The Manosphere is a lot like hardcore porn, refined sugar, and extreme violence: something that should be used sparingly because it can ruin your life if you wallow in it, and that you should rarely expose yourself to because the effects diminish the more often it’s consumed.
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