To be intimidating a man needs to have the physical
constitution competency of a fighter, the articulation of a statesman, and the brevity of a monk.
Choosing to be physically competent, particularly after my twenty-somethings make me an outlier. Being a kid that went from underweight and sickly, to overweight and portly, then finally rounding it out late in my high school career with weight lifting and martial arts I have seen both sides of the equation.
Being fit, specifically not being obese is a profound statement, considering that obesity is becoming more and more normal for Americans ~> http://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/adult.html
Constantly working on my fitness and achieving physical goals says that I have a fundamental level of discipline that can’t be faked, bought, or borrowed the way other markers of success and confidence can: jewellery, cars, and expensive toys come to mind.
The intersection between life experience and the bodes ability to make use of what the mind has learned is very, very intimidating
Once I was past my twenties, my choosing to remain physically competent became even more of an asset because when combined with a solid education, a diverse set of life experiences, and a worldly outlook, I became a man who other men feel comfortable doing business with and that women want to give their time and attention to.
My buddy Leadslinger is a dear friend who is a great guy. Articulate, well read, unafraid, and on the short list of men I would call if I found myself surrounded by bad guys. Unfortunately, he is also very fat. This causes him to be targeted by cowardly men who see him and disrespect him. Their thinking is what’s the worst he’s going to do? I can most likely out-fight him, or just run; either way, he can’t hurt me. I’m not suggesting that every time men disagree it turns physical.
Still, empirical research has shown us that men (sub-?) consciously ask themselves one important question when we meet other men. Can I take him out if I need to?! This isn’t restricted to violence, it could mean asking if I have the friends and resources to defend myself against him and the people behind him, corporate or personal, if needed. The problem is that information isn’t readily available, how he looks and carries himself is.
Even worse is his invisibility to women. They don’t like him or dislike him, they simply disregard him as if he was invisible, and that’s far more painful for him.
Speaking like a statesman does not mean that I have to “talk like I’m smart” or use expensive words. It just means that I am able to relate my thoughts, no matter how simple or complex, clearly. That’s no indicator of how smart/stupid I am. An advantage I gained when I was young was that I am able to express my thoughts clearly and quickly. The ability to let someone know exactly what’s going on in my mind gives me a distinct advantage.
Being able to translate my thoughts into a something thats digestible to others makes it easier for me to gain allies. That too is very, very intimidating.
*Brevity is my weak point.
~Watt, still focusing on brevity.
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