If I had picked up that last bottle of water the way I pick up girls, I wouldn’t be writing this through teeth that are clenched and grinding due to the pain in my chest! Continue reading
Pain, grant me the fury to refuse that there is anything I cannot change, the endurance to change the things that make me furious, and the force of will to learn the lessons taught by things that hurt me!
When I threw down the challenge and demanded that Dr. Kim sit down and make a case against my preference for Girls and not Women, she showed up ready willing and able!
Dr. Kim is her name, but her sobriquet is what rings out in the halls of academia: The Thought Reframer. We came ready for a war of words! Listen up! ->
As a writer, I’ve learned to never start a positive comment with negative words. In Global Insights – The Zen of Travel and BEING in the World, Dr. Monteiro broke the rules of being a so-called “travel writer”, so I feel no shame (a laughable concept anyway) in putting forward my thoughts on her book.
What the book isn’t!
- It’s not a happy-go-lucky, generic coming-of-age book written by someone with no life experience.
- It’s not a book that highlights the highs and avoids talking about the painful, gut-wrenching, and often soul-crushing sacrifices made in order to live the dream.
- It’s not a book to be taken lightly, or easy to put down.
- It’s not even the “part memoir; part motivational/inspirational text; part travelogue; part collection of psychological insights into creativity, motivation, and self-actualization”, it’s billed as. Because this book is far more than the sum total of its profound, yet disparate parts.
So, You Don’t Like Black Guys?
That’s OK! Go for what you DO want!
She’s a lovely woman, whose beauty is still in full bloom. She wanted to talk to me, to ask for advice. She asked about things she thinks she’ll need to know “Later, when I want a husband, like you.” She and I don’t have any pretentiousness in our relationship. We have an easy freedom of conversation that’s more honest than what most men and women will ever have.
I explained to her that most men view a good woman the same way he sees his favorite old t-shirt, and that’s a good thing. I spent quite a while unpacking my reasoning with her.