Jessica made a profound statement! She was talking about men, and the difficult, awkward, sometimes insulting ways they she’s been approached. When she said that after particularly insensitive comments from some men, she confronts them on their poor choice of words with ”So, I’m White enough to feed your self-hatred, but Black enough not to piss off your family?”
I was floored! After that, I asked her to really dig in and unpack her thoughts. This is what she came back with.
Self-hatred comes in several forms, from subtle to overt. It can be expressed as “woe is me” self-loathing, or it can be projected on to others in order to deflect attention. For generations, it has been common for Black Americans to practice self-hatred. It’s a common practice; a tradition rooted in slavery and passed down from parent to child.
I’m often asked, “So, what do you write about?” The answer is never simple. When I set about the task of chronicling my life and adventures, I took into account all of the tips, tricks, victories, learning experiences, and pitfalls that my friends who are authors and writers of a wide variety of genres talked to me about. Here is the answer that best suits the question.